When I was a little girl, I wanted nothing more than being able to drive a car. I used to always ride shotgun, and imitate my dad while he handled the wheel with perfection. I couldn't wait to turn 18, and finally get my hands on the wheel, for real. My dad used to tell me, you don't know what you're asking for, being a responsible adult isn't as easy as ABC. I used to laugh it off, thinking that he's was probably just messing with me, I mean, how difficult could it get? Or was I missing something?
But oh boy, was I wrong.
I am not necessarily talking about turning 18, when I did, I didn't feel different, not even the slightest. I am talking about growing up all mind and soul, and not just physically, the process of the same, how the train of our thoughts twists, and turns as we grow up. School become college, peers become competition, emotions go hay-wire, overall life gets a little strange.
You will feel alone, tired, rejected, pathetic, hopeless, directionless, and all possible less', but they are just phases, and they'll pass. You will come upon this realization that you're all on your own, not that your parents aren't there for you, but your pride won't let you ask for help. You feel like you'll handle things, you'll get through. With time, you'll have to make choices that will determine how your future will shape out to be. Not scared yet? I'm not trying to be a sadist here, I'm just stating the truth. And, even after making a choice, there will be times when you'll feel like this isn't what you want for yourself, and along with making foolish decisions, you'll make mistakes too, and no matter how bad you want to go back in time, and correct them, you can't. You'll have blind faith in people, who will break your trust, you'll invest emotionally in people who will later just turn their back on you when you need help. Not only hopes, but you'll get your heart crushed too. You'll realize how difficult it is to choose between your priorities, and the priorities of your loved ones.
You'll feel like there's no one who'll understand you, your fears, your insecurities. You'll bottle things up because they are your problems, and that you're just being silly, and you don't want to seem like an attention seeker, because despite the odds, you don't want to play the “victim” in your story. You'll feel detached and broken at times when the world is putting you down, and all the doors of hope get closed one-by-one. You will realize how cruel the real world is, ruthless in its attacks. You'll finally understand the phrase, “watch your back”, because you'll meet back-stabbers in people, who you thought could never cause you harm. You'll feel like you're stagnant, and the world is moving on, and it's not going to wait for you to be ready.
You'll realize that driving a car, doesn't only mean driving a car, it also means, taking responsibility for the lives of people who are seated along side you. It's quite different from being a pro in dashing car, mind you. One wrong move, and all is gone. (Here, the steering wheel of the car has a metaphorical resonance to the wheel of our life.)
But, in-spite of all this, time will makes things bearable, if not easier, and you will push through, and come out the other side, and realize that it may be a hell of a job, being an adult, a responsible one at that, but in the end, it'll all work out just fine.
Just remember, when you fall down, don't give up, get up, dust yourself, and move on. When the world comes crushing down on you, fight with all that you've got, stand up for what you think is right, there maybe a huge gap between what's right, and what's easy. Make a wise choice. Find your happiness in the little things. Don't be elated by success, or dejected by failure. Channelize your energy into something productive. Be surrounded by people who will hold you close during dark days, and share your happiness, and sorrow equally. Understand that, good times, or bad, it'll pass, and no matter how hard you try, you'll never be prepared for what life throws at you. Learn to accept, adapt, and change. Stop questioning the sequence of events, you'll only end up wasting your energy, learn to make the best out of every situation,
Live your life, the way you want, just remember to make each day count, and when it all goes down, you won't end up with a frown.
I am just 19, and have a lot to learn yet.
But oh boy, was I wrong.
I am not necessarily talking about turning 18, when I did, I didn't feel different, not even the slightest. I am talking about growing up all mind and soul, and not just physically, the process of the same, how the train of our thoughts twists, and turns as we grow up. School become college, peers become competition, emotions go hay-wire, overall life gets a little strange.
You will feel alone, tired, rejected, pathetic, hopeless, directionless, and all possible less', but they are just phases, and they'll pass. You will come upon this realization that you're all on your own, not that your parents aren't there for you, but your pride won't let you ask for help. You feel like you'll handle things, you'll get through. With time, you'll have to make choices that will determine how your future will shape out to be. Not scared yet? I'm not trying to be a sadist here, I'm just stating the truth. And, even after making a choice, there will be times when you'll feel like this isn't what you want for yourself, and along with making foolish decisions, you'll make mistakes too, and no matter how bad you want to go back in time, and correct them, you can't. You'll have blind faith in people, who will break your trust, you'll invest emotionally in people who will later just turn their back on you when you need help. Not only hopes, but you'll get your heart crushed too. You'll realize how difficult it is to choose between your priorities, and the priorities of your loved ones.
You'll feel like there's no one who'll understand you, your fears, your insecurities. You'll bottle things up because they are your problems, and that you're just being silly, and you don't want to seem like an attention seeker, because despite the odds, you don't want to play the “victim” in your story. You'll feel detached and broken at times when the world is putting you down, and all the doors of hope get closed one-by-one. You will realize how cruel the real world is, ruthless in its attacks. You'll finally understand the phrase, “watch your back”, because you'll meet back-stabbers in people, who you thought could never cause you harm. You'll feel like you're stagnant, and the world is moving on, and it's not going to wait for you to be ready.
You'll realize that driving a car, doesn't only mean driving a car, it also means, taking responsibility for the lives of people who are seated along side you. It's quite different from being a pro in dashing car, mind you. One wrong move, and all is gone. (Here, the steering wheel of the car has a metaphorical resonance to the wheel of our life.)
But, in-spite of all this, time will makes things bearable, if not easier, and you will push through, and come out the other side, and realize that it may be a hell of a job, being an adult, a responsible one at that, but in the end, it'll all work out just fine.
Just remember, when you fall down, don't give up, get up, dust yourself, and move on. When the world comes crushing down on you, fight with all that you've got, stand up for what you think is right, there maybe a huge gap between what's right, and what's easy. Make a wise choice. Find your happiness in the little things. Don't be elated by success, or dejected by failure. Channelize your energy into something productive. Be surrounded by people who will hold you close during dark days, and share your happiness, and sorrow equally. Understand that, good times, or bad, it'll pass, and no matter how hard you try, you'll never be prepared for what life throws at you. Learn to accept, adapt, and change. Stop questioning the sequence of events, you'll only end up wasting your energy, learn to make the best out of every situation,
Live your life, the way you want, just remember to make each day count, and when it all goes down, you won't end up with a frown.
I am just 19, and have a lot to learn yet.
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